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We Don’t Owe the Monarchy Our Grief
I was born in a country that used to be a part of the Commonwealth: Nigeria. A country that just got its’ independence from Great Britain in 1960. A country that is younger than my mother. A country that was torn apart because of colonialism’s chokehold on it. A country …
How My Aversion to Being Ashy Got Me in Expensive Trouble
Lemme tell you a story about how my aversion to being ashy got me in some expensive trouble. I know I’m the Professional Troublemaker but this ain’t the type of smoke I wanted. —– On Friday, I did a last minute meetup with my awesome agent, Andrea Nelson Meigs. She …
My Therapist Passed Away and I’m Stunned and I’m Processing it by Writing This
Yesterday, I found out my therapist passed away, unexpectedly. Today was going to be our next appointment. I last saw her on December 29. I’m not even sure how to process it. I’m stumped. I’m stunned. I’m gutted. Who helps you process the sudden death of the person who helps …
Black is King is a Masterpiece
When Beyoncé dropped The Gift in 2019, in conjunction with the live remake of “The Lion King” she blessed our ears with a heavily afrobeats album, partnering with some of West Africa’s finest musicians, in Yemi Alade, Tiwa Savage, Mr. Eazi, Burna Boy. Every song was a vibe, some were …
How to Properly Ask for Mentorship or Business Advice Via Email
There’s someone out there who you admire and has valuable knowledge that you’d love to tap into. They are often people you’ve never met. You want to learn more from them and emailing them is a great way to open the doors of communication. There is nothing wrong with asking …
About Caucasity and the Difference Between a Becky, a Karen and a Susan
We must all start operating from the same page, to minimize confusion in this world. When it comes to the state of caucasity, we gotta get clear on the groups that exist. In case this is your first time hearing the word “Caucasity,” know that it speaks to whiteness, white …
About Prince Harry, Meghan Markle and the Love They Chose Over Everything
It was just announced that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle aka the Duke and Duchess of Sussex will be relinquishing their royal titles, duties and money. As a member of the Monarchy, Henry Charles Albert David is entitled to certain things, like “His Royal Highness” as a title, and public …
Jesus is King and Kanye’s a Fool
Kanye West has become Christianity’s town crier and just released an album (and IMAX movie) called Jesus is King to make it official. Months ago, he started doing Sunday Services, and people were gagging in glee because they were so touched that this man was loudly proclaiming his love for …
Toni Morrison: The Favorite Teacher I Never Met
There are favorite teachers we will never meet. In 8th grade, my favorite English teacher assigned us Toni Morrison’s Sula. I have always loved reading so it was no thing to jump into the book. But once I was on those pages, those words mesmerized me, engulfed me and hugged …
This is America: Donald Glover’s Video is a Gripping Read
In times of great crisis, we create great art. Donald Glover’s video for his latest single This is America is great art. It’s not because it’s trying to be overly subtle to where only art connoisseurs can defuse the meaning. It’s that it trusts us to pick up what it’s …
About the Weary Weaponizing of White Women Tears
Picture it: a white woman feels challenged or uncomfortable about something a Black person said or did. Instead of using her words, she cries. Instantly, no matter what the initial catalyst of the situation is, she ends up being appeased, pacified and pampered. Lawd knows we’ve all seen virtual white …
About My TED Talk That Almost Didn’t Happen and Now Has 2 Million Views
Last week (April 5, 2018), my TED talk Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable crossed the 2 million view mark! It’s been watched, all over the world, 2 million times! It’s been transcribed to 18 different languages. In 15 years of writing, 8 years of speaking, it’s my most consumed thing. …
On Wakanda: My Black Panther Review
Black Panther. This movie has taken over the world! It’s been probably the biggest pop culture moment in the last decade, and the most highly anticipated film in a long while. It’s finally here, and it has lived up to every piece of hype it has gotten. I’ve seen it …
White Women Need to Get Their Shit Together
Yesterday was the much-anticipated (and dreaded) race for Alabama’s newest senator. One candidate was the run-of-the-mill Democrat. Nothing radical or life-altering about him. Doug Jones is the status quo in human form. And the other was a pedophile who stood boldly in his racist, confederacy values. Roy Moore would have …
The Pope Meeting The Trumps is All Of Us
This international tour that Cantaloupe Caillou is on will not stop providing moments of memes. It will not stop reminding us that we (well, yall. I know who I voted for) have elected Sunburned Stalin to represent us all on the global stage and it is the biggest mistake ever …
Because I am Obsessed with “Get Out”
This post is long overdue because I first saw Jordan Peele’s new film Get Out over a month ago. Yes, I said “first” because I did something I usually don’t: I went to the theater again to see a movie. TWICE in one month. That is how obsessed I am …
