Social MediaThrowback Thursday

Remember Facebook Honesty Box?

In like 2007, Facebook introduced apps, and one of them was “Honesty Box.” Honesty Box allowed you to send any of your friends messages anonymously and it allowed folks to say whatever they wanted, without repercussions or anything. And folks acted accordingly too because keyboard courage is super real. Honest Box was a vessel for bitchassness and all hell broke loose on Facebook.

Honesty Box

People were sending messages to the person they don’t like telling them how much they hate them. Folks were letting their crushes know that they wanted to have their babies. Some folks were pasting messages they received as their statuses, and asking publicly who it was (like the person was gonna confess and be treated right there).

It was nothing but drama, and the people who created the app wanted that. They had to. Honesty Box was like giving folks a loaded gun and expecting them not to shoot. Folks shot point blank range.

HB messages came color-coded too. If the message was from a girl, it’d be in a pink box, and blue if from a guy. And some messages were in gray, which apparently stood for “I don’t want you to know my gender.” When someone sent you a message, you could reply back to them, so some became full-fledged conversations.

I got a bunch of messages myself. Shockingly enough, only 1 or 2 were bad and they were from girls. Someone called me dramatic (*clutches pearls* WHO ME?!?!? *faints*) and I can’t recall the other. I might have deleted it. A good bulk of my messages were from guys saying they had a crush on me. YOU BETTER COME OUT AND SAY IT WITH YOUR CHEST! Chile… I ain’t gon lie, doe. I was all “Check me out with my secret admirer swag!” One of the messages said “we’ve been friends for a long time and I’m in love with you.” I never did figure out who it was.

I sent a couple of Honesty Box messages out, like “You’re REALLY cute! And you have a nice body.” I’m a lame. I usually divulged who I was by the 2nd message though. I wasn’t too much about the secret life. Besides, I was also paranoid that one day, HB was gonna have a glitch and reveal the message senders so I kept that in mind. I didn’t tell anyone I hated ’em or anything. Although I did tell someone that… wait. She might be reading this blog. YOU ALMOST HAD ME!

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Last night, I went on Facebook and signed into Honesty Box for the first time in YEARS to pull some of these messages I got from the fellas. These are some verbatim:

“If i could have you for a day, I would make your toes curl in pleasure. You are so sexy.”

Sir… I don’t do such things. NO I DO NOT, MOM!!!

“you could so get it, my nubian queen.”

Tyrese, I think you’re hot too but take me out first.

“I’m in luv with you, but just dont know how to tell you.”

The fact that this man is spelling love “luv” means I wouldn’t e’em want him to tell me who he was.

Anyway, I think I deactivated my Honesty Box like 6 months after getting it originally. And I’d sign in intermittently. Turns out that once you activated it, people can send you messages even after deactivating. Because when I’d sign in, I’d see a new message.

Oh Honesty Box…

Do you remember it? Did you find out someone wanted you to get them pregnant? Did your archnemesis come for your head? Tell me. Let’s reminisce.

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  1. TracieMae
    November 23, 2011 at 7:09 am

    Hells yes! I used to Honesty Box the entire hell out of my old crush. I think he knew it was me though. Because sometimes I’d Honesty Box him and he’d text me like 2 minutes later. I’m not so great at that secret life either Luvvie. (Can we stop for a second and grieve the fact that I made Honesty Box a verb?………….*moment of silence*……………….Amen.)

  2. November 23, 2011 at 8:23 am

    Remember the day the honesty box malfunctioned for a few hours and showed names with the messages. Oh Lawd! all Hell broke loose on fb. I was grateful at that moment that I have never had an honesty box nor sent any dang on messages. I did sign up for it after that, just to see what it was, but by then I think folks had stop using it for a while…

  3. themochapeach
    November 23, 2011 at 7:23 am

    I got the Honesty Box right around the time I was getting a divorce (right.. Brilliant of me). Nigs was pressed and Bitches were evil.most were lighthearted but I got all kinda stalker messages. Some from dudes trying to “get in on the action” of my now failing marriage and “help me ease some pain”. Some from women (prob friends of my ex or women he was fucking) saying I was wasting a “good man” and it was my fault. Funny part is.. Up until I changed my name on FB,, aint nobody but a few folks knew it was ending. Unlike most.. I didn’t put up no slick messages. It all came to a head when a girl told me I was a “bitch” and gonna remain single. Like she knew me or something. *rolls eyes* Hoes be pressed to be evil.

    Creepiest of all was my frat brother who decided to stalk me and pretend to be a good looking, sexy Lothario. He looked like Lurch. And I knew it was him.. Aint nobody want his ass! Other sorors said he was doing the same and being creepy.

  4. November 23, 2011 at 8:53 am

    Honesty Box was the epitome of Internet passive aggressive-ness. Folks were being all kinds of wreckless in other ppl’s honesty boxes & either being really mean or really stupid. I got a cpl “you’re fat” messages & a several “you should let me beat” ones too.

    It seems like the new version was last year’s numbers game, where folks were sending ppl #s & then the receiver would answer how they felt abt the person publicly.

  5. Antonio
    November 23, 2011 at 1:43 pm

    Yup I sure remember it. A few folks hit me up to confess feelings or to tell me tht I was pretty cool, which was pretty cool to be tol I was pretty cool. However, I have a tendency to pay attention to the way people write, so I was actually able to identify who was writing what.

    Conversely, I managed to stalk quite a few folks that way. ‘Cause real G’s stalk people anonymously.

  6. Heaven
    November 24, 2011 at 3:06 pm

    I remember HB. I loved and loathed it. I was always terrified my name would show, and according to someone who posted a few comments above me on this thread, it did! I remember when a chick that was supposed to be my friend was tryna hook up with my husband (we had just separated but had no intentions @ the time on filing for a divorce)…ratchet bitch.

    • November 25, 2011 at 2:49 pm

      WHHHHAAA??!?! She tried to get your man? Lawd…

  7. Stacy
    February 15, 2012 at 5:39 pm

    I can honestly say, I never did the honesty box thing. I was to afraid of what others would say about me and scared that if I sent someone a message they would know I was the culprit. Ironically, i did have an incident because my friend (she was very insecure at the time) accused me of saying something I didn’t say. She was so mad she de-friend me. However I didn’t know until a year later which is crazy because we still saw each other everyday (we were in grad school together & worked together)

  8. Mrs.Reed
    February 16, 2012 at 12:06 pm

    I had it and I got msgs from girls who didn’t make my line(I pledged AKA). I also got a msg from a girl saying she was sleeping with my now ex husband buuuuut that was the day hb glitched and so I knew who she was.

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