The Public Proposal That Failed

Marriage proposals can be awesome. But some can be downright foolish, and lack real thought. Or just show lack of good judgment. Someone sent me this video, of a dude proposing to his girl on the stage of a PACKED nightclub. Anddddd she said NAWL! Watch below:


That kinda hurt my heart to watch. I am embarrassed for dude because his #selfofsteam was dropkicked through the goalposts of life. But I don’t feel sorry for him at all. Here’s why.

If you’re going to propose to someone publicly, you need to be sure they’re going to say yes. This means y’all have had convos about marriage and she might know that someday in the near future, you plan on asking for her hand.

I think folks who propose to their girlfriends in super public places, like baseball parks on big screens, are doing it less because it’s what she wants and more because she might be more likely to say yes, since the whole world is watching.

NO SIR! Not THAT girl. And I commend her for it.

In fact, he should have read her face! The way ol’ girl was looking at him before he even got on one knee was nothing nice. Her face was trying to nicely say “This mufucka here…” But alas, he’s as oblivious to it as he is to the fact that his lining does the most. He didn’t see the “no” coming. He prolly thought she was gon swoon, start crying and mumble teary “yesses.”

*buzzer* WRONG!

Then when he proposed to her, Homegirl shook her head “No” and tried to close the ring box. And he still stayed on his janky knee begging to see if she’d change her mind. WOMP! They shoulda been playing a Keith Sweat song at that moment (cuz that was one begging negro).

And at like 2:50, you can read her lips saying something like “You can’t fix it like this.” So this fool is actually proposing to rectify some dumb sh*t he did? LAWD!!! Clearly that ring wasn’t big enough couldn’t fix it. I hope he kept that receipt.

Besides, there is nothing remotely romantic about being proposed to in a sauna with a DJ, in front of 200 people you don’t know. The club is all noisy, and she probably had to concentrate real hard to even hear what he was saying. HOW IS THAT ROMANTIC???

Yeah, that dude’s #selfofsteam is somewhere just wading in the water. He shoulda been sure before he did it so publicly and got humiliated.

And I ain’t e’em got time to talk about the Mini Ruben Studdard who started off by serenading the girl. He had no purpose. And he needs to be singing “Sorry 2011” for the rejected dude. Nor do I got time for the people in the crowd yelling for her to say yes. I’m sure the minute he got off that stage… O____o

Chile… I kinda laughed though. SMH.

Did you cringe or laugh at this video? Are you a fan of public proposals? Fellas, what would you do if this happened to you?

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  1. June 10, 2011 at 7:15 am

    I don’t know if I could be so cold as to publicly say no. I’m a bad liar but I’d have to try to muddle through a fake yes until I got his simple ass alone to let him know the real deal.
    Also, I feel like that’s something that is very intimate and personal I would absolutely HATE for someone to try to put my private moment out there like that but I have seen one public proposal and it was very sweet and nice…for them.

  2. blackladyblue
    June 10, 2011 at 7:16 am

    Gentlemen, learn to read your lady’s face! There was no way she was going to say yes, even with you putting the pressure on not to embarrass you in front of all those people. I just laughed, it was clearly a last-ditch effort to get her to stay with him after Lord knows what wrongdoings.

  3. embraceurcrazy
    June 10, 2011 at 7:17 am

    LMAO @ the women in the background screaming “don’t embarrass him”, “I’ll take it boo” are hilarious. She should have just walked off, letting this go on for a whole 3 minutes is just crazy. And the editor of this video ain’t shit(but is hilarious) with is black and white recap of this humongous fail at the end of this video.

    • June 10, 2011 at 8:17 am

      *can’t breeve*
      *rewinds and watches again*
      Sir, you are CLEARLY doing the most with the LEAST!
      And iConcur, the vidjo editor AIN’T SHIT for the B&W AND the Me’shell Ndegeocello “You Made a Fool of Me” track in the back!! Made it even funtier! Lawd, I laughed FROM THE GUT!!

      • adwoa
        June 10, 2011 at 4:41 pm


        luvvie, you ain’t shit for posting this but thank you for roasting the public proposal the way it deserves to be done. EVERY time i see one of those triflin’ ass videos where some dude corners his girl in a public park and hires a high school step team to spell out “bish will u b mah baby mama” or some other complete foolishness, i get angry.

        when did the proposal turn into its own whole category of performance art and no one told me? fuck that mess and i am so so glad that one lady was wise enough to kick the trifling dude who publicly asked her to the curb. hopefully, his rejection will make other ijots trying to walk the same path think twice!

        • Nana
          June 10, 2011 at 9:08 pm

          *dead* Not the high school step team though.

        • Lexi
          June 11, 2011 at 7:04 pm

          lmao@the high school step team!!!

        • June 12, 2011 at 11:40 pm

          I had to, Adwoa. I couldn’t stand by idly and watch this foolery go down. Not the high school step team, #doe. LMAO!!!! Chile…

      • June 12, 2011 at 11:34 pm


    • June 12, 2011 at 11:32 pm

      Right. Those women were prolly waiting for him when he got off stage to hand him their pannies. SHAME!

      Yeah the giant “FAIL” at the end was hilar!

  4. June 10, 2011 at 7:23 am

    Fellas… fellas and you standing over there in the AF1’s and jean shorts. Please don’t sacrifice your #SelfofSteam like this fool did. He failed in several areas as Luvvie mentioned but I would like to pinpoint the exact point that his Kufi got cunt punted into the stratosphere at the part where he had Shaluffa Vandross serenading that lady..

    Her face was like and her #Additude was like

    You just can’t ignore them clear signs yo… NOPE. NAWL. NEVER.

    I wouldn’t have been down on my one, good knee for her to embarrass the entire fugg out of me yo, I would’ve said I AINT WANTED TO MARRY YOU ANYWAY, mushed her and walked off.

    • bronxgirl1
      June 11, 2011 at 12:25 am

      *DEAD* @ Shaluffa Vandross

    • lexi
      June 11, 2011 at 7:06 pm

      lmao no sir @mushing her tho lol!

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:34 pm

      LMAOOOO @ his kufi being cunt punted. It sho’ll was just kicked into Mars. Mini Ruben’s opener was just a mess too.

      I can’t stand you for them twitpics. GERROFF MY BLOG, LV! lol By gerroff, I mean never leave.

  5. June 10, 2011 at 7:31 am

    He should’ve known this shit would go SOUF doe.. Fellas, fellas, fellas yes I’m talking to you over there out of your house in the durag (cape billowing) and the AF1’s… If your lady face looks like and her #Additude is like

    Your proposals will probably go down kindaaaaaaa like this..

  6. Shola
    June 10, 2011 at 9:23 am was SUPERDUPER obvious she was going to say no…no matter the situation or setting if their relationship was in a good place she would have said yes…clearly he doesn’t know his woman…she red through his b.s. and i applaud her for not giving in for the bling…and i don’t feel a lick of sorryness for him…#EPICFAIL

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:35 pm

      He was just dumb. Or just thinking she wasn’t gon have the nerve to turn him down at that club. Clearly he shoulda really looked at her instead of pumping himself up in his head like “She gon be swooning!” NAWL!

  7. June 10, 2011 at 10:12 am

    WOW! I commend her though. Considering the news hates black women these days–always talking about how bad we want to be married and how nobody wants us–she didn’t settle for what she didn’t want and didn’t deserve to get a wedding and a marriage. Do you boo!

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:35 pm

      Right! She was like “I’d rather be lonely than marry this joker!” *standing ovation*

  8. Erin
    June 10, 2011 at 10:48 am

    Wooooooooow! How embarrassing for him! But KUDOS to her! Whatever he did, he would do it again if a ring is all it took to get her past it. Naw, girl…he CAN’T fix it like that! But I need to know the REAL story. Since it’s all over the net now, where are his friends and her friends? I know they’re ready to defend their folks! What happened???? How did they get to this awful awful place? LOL

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:36 pm

      Yeah that was his clear mistake. He musta royally messed that up b/c he really sat up there and got her a ring as a bandaid. Nawl sir. That ain’t how this is going down.

  9. Stephanie
    June 10, 2011 at 11:21 am

    Whoever added that Tyler Perry intro soundtrack needs a damn award because i’m DYING.

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:36 pm

      HA!!! They musta watched “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”

  10. Ashley
    June 10, 2011 at 12:35 pm

    I laughed

    I’ve seen maybe two public proposals that weren’t traditional (i.e. on a jumbotron, at a family gathering where mostly everybody knew but her, on a holiday with both families in attendance, etc)
    there’s actually one that was the sweetest I’ve ever seen done at the movie theatre by my house (it’s floating on the web too)

    to whoever will love me enough to want to wake up to me for the rest of his life, a public proposal is NOT the way to go. It’s not even about the pressure for me to say yes so you won’t be embarrassed. Do it in private so when I dramatically tell my friends about it they’ll wish they were there but I can be satisfied that it was just us (b/c it will be just us in the marriage). No holidays either or some other occasion where, if we’ve been talking about it, I’m thinking that this occasion might be it.

    Be creative with it and have it be at the most off the wall time so you can guarantee that I will be surprised

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:37 pm

      I saw the vid who did that movie proposal. It WAS sweet. But it seems he knew she was gon say yes. They had talked bout marriage.

      I’m not a huge fan of public proposals, mayne. I need it to be in a space where I wont be afraid to do the ugly cry and just fall apart.

  11. June 10, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    After seeing that EPIC movie theatre proposal (to end all proposals… seriously dudes, it’s a wrap), I thought this was just another romantical proposal video. Which is was until… she said she couldn’t. Homeboy BEGGED her, too. LAWD.

    Was that Malik from The Game at the very beginning of the video? lol

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:38 pm

      YES LAWD!!! That proposal was EPIC as all to be. LMAOOOO @ Malik from the Game. Chile…

      • Fisayo
        June 17, 2011 at 10:46 pm

        That really was Malik from the Game…look carefully Luvvie

  12. June 10, 2011 at 1:16 pm

    I couldn’t watch. I’ve been engaged three times (yeah, I know), and they’ve all been fairly private. It is more fun to “fling the ring” and show your family/friends when they don’t know the proposal went down. This most recent engagement (yeah, I know), I didn’t get a proposal as much as a command. “We’re getting married when I graduate.”

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:38 pm

      Three times??? Chile you is WANTED! But I cracked up at your “Yeah I Knows”

  13. asetdevine
    June 10, 2011 at 3:04 pm

    I was shaking my head the whole time I watched the video because you could tell from her face she was not feeling any of what was going on.I knew it was a “no” by the way she looked at him.

    Personally, I would prefer to proposed to in private. I think that it’s an intimate moment that shouldn’t be shared with anyone else.

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:39 pm

      Gurl… she was NOT having it. Men are really not great w/ nonverbal cues cuz her look spoke very loudly. I’d also prefer a private proposal.

  14. June 10, 2011 at 4:54 pm

    Here’s my take…They broke up a while ago (3-6 months) after he did some foolishness…He called with the offer to see XYZ sing (probably that Loser Vandross in the beginning). All she wanted was an excuse to put on her white dress and ALL of those accoutrements (belt, necklace, bracelet AND ring – jeesh!), see a show, get some free drinks and eats AND go home by herself. She is thinking “free”…That fool is thinking “future” (or at least for the next six months).

    Don’t ask how I know this *hangs head in shame*.

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:41 pm

      This is highly possible. But I think what happened is that he cheated a month before and she left his sorry ass. And then this was the last of many attempts to win her back and she was like “NAWL FOOL! Besides, I got me a new boo.”

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:41 pm

      Now I wanna know why you know this lol

  15. Laik
    June 10, 2011 at 7:38 pm

    The video editor is a terrible person, because that song + black and white instant replay of all the Fail = Beautiful ratchetness.

    Also, “his #selfofsteam was dropkicked through the goalposts of life.” I have no words for this…no words! I almost choked and died laughing. All I needed was a “Jesus take the wheel” pic and that would have been the end for me.

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:41 pm

      Jesus wasn’t gon take this wheel. Christ woulda told him “Son, you shoulda read her face.”

  16. paintgurl40
    June 11, 2011 at 4:35 pm

    DEAD at those twicpics!!! she had that same damn look on her face as ray j!!!!!

    she wasn’t that cold though…she was wiping away her tears when she asked him to stand up but NOOO…..he still kept talking and playing to the audience, so she had to shut him down.

    and here i thought it was only me who had issues with public marriage proposals.

    • June 12, 2011 at 11:44 pm

      She was wiping away tears b/ she knew she was bout to crush him. A lotta folks have issues w/ public proposals. This was the most painful one I’ve seen though.

      • paintgurl40
        June 20, 2011 at 12:22 pm

        naw on youtube a dude gets the week slapped out of him at a basketball game. i thought it was me cuz when i watched oprah down under this guy went scuba diving and proposed to his girl who was on the boat..everyone was awwing and cheering and i was like n@##@!you didnt pay for the damn ticket!your momma gave the tickets 2 u!

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  18. June 13, 2011 at 7:44 am

    Thanks a LOT Luvvie! I just spit out all my damn coffee on this here county computer screen!!! It was this line…

    “And I ain’t e’em got time to talk about the Mini Ruben Studdard who started off by serenading the girl. He had no purpose. And he needs to be singing “Sorry 2011″ for the rejected dude.”

    MAD atchu…just MAD that I’m wiping up coffee and spit! lmaooo

  19. Tiffy
    June 15, 2011 at 8:44 am

    You know what? She actually looked hurt, like he’s done some foul ish to her. Proposing ain’t how you make up for it. Don’t ever say I’m sorry with an engagement ring! Somebody tried that mess with me. Lucky for HIM, he didn’t ask me in a public place. I still would have said “Hell naw!”

    • S-K
      July 4, 2011 at 11:23 pm

      Yeah, I also noticed she looked very hurt. Chances are she’s more upset than he was upset by the no. Next.

  20. Stephanie
    September 27, 2011 at 12:56 pm

    That was funny as heck! Michelle singing “You made of fool of me” in the background was classic!!!