About Prince Harry, Meghan Markle and the Love They Chose Over Everything
It was just announced that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle aka the Duke and Duchess of Sussex will be relinquishing their royal titles, duties and money. As a member of the Monarchy, Henry Charles Albert David is entitled to certain things, like “His Royal Highness” as a title, and public funding for a lot of his life. When he married Rachel Meghan Markle, she, by virtue of being his wife, had access to some of these benefits of varying degree.
But see, all that glittered wasn’t gold but ash. The British Monarchy’s existence is a forever spotlight on class superiority, with an ever-present underpinning of exclusivity by ethnicity (no shoutout to racism). Meghan, whose mother is a Black woman from California, was fighting an uphill battle from the moment Harry fell in love with her.
After years of the British media and tabloids’ utmost disrespect, deep scrutiny and a monarchy that hasn’t done too much to protect someone who should be family to them, here we are. Kate Middleton’s caucasity never had to deal with this level of trolling and hate directed her way that Meghan’s melanin has.
Harry and Meghan made the decision to step back from it all. The duties, the titles, the money. Because the drumbeat all along is that Meghan is not good enough for Harry. Her only crime has been being a Black woman, not of the bourgeouisie, who found love with a ginger-haired white man whose family is at the head of a centuries-old caste system. That is Meghan’s ONLY crime, and for it, she’s been loudly lambasted by a public that still has its head in its own ass, over the fact that white people sometimes find Black people they adore, and marry. And a BLACK PRINCESS? People’s minds have been exploding since that Royal wedding. Even when Disney gave us a Black princess, she was a frog for 75% of the movie she was in.
Once this became public, of course it became the talk of the world. And social media, being a microcosm and a megaphone of the world’s thoughts, has exploded with all types of takes. The ones that make me want to beat my head against a wall are the loudest and wrongest dimwits who are wondering why Prince Harry is daring to do this, just for Meghan. From paid simpletons like Piers Morgan to unpaid random trolls sitting in their parents basements in ratty underwear.
People are fixing their useless mouths and fingers to ask why Prince Harry is sacrificing his royal title and money for his wife, and it lets me know why some people won’t ever have anything worth protecting in life. Toxic ass goats.
Love is a verb. It isn’t just to post about on the internet. It isn’t just about changing your Facebook status. It surely ain’t just about being able to say “I have a wife.” or “I have a husband” because it sounds cute. If you’re not willing to protect what you say you cherish, then what is the point?
People really do not know what showing up means. What Harry is doing, is showing up for his family. And it’s a beautiful thing.
And then folks are calling this MEGXIT to demonize Meghan, as if she tied this man down and forced his hand. As if Prince Harry isn’t a grown ass man who has the world at his feet and can literally make any choice he wants. As if he didn’t witness for himself, what could happen when someone who married in to the Monarchy is deeply unliked and lambasted publicly could literally DIE for it. He has spoken openly about how the death of his mother, Princess Diana, when he was 12, has affected and continues to affect him.
Really, I think it comes down to the fact that people find it completely unbelievable that a white man (a royal one, at that) could pick a Black woman as his partner, and then pick HER over everyone and everything else in his life.
There are even some people, who are Black, spewing some of this. That Harry didn’t do this because of Meghan, but because of his disdain for the Monarchy. Harry HAS had a problem with Royal life but what made him make this decision now, and in such a concrete way, was his family: Meghan and Baby Archie. I will not reduce the enormity of his decision with “well he’s been tired of royal duties.” Ok. But if he was a single man, he might not feel the urge to do this now.
Some people are actually also showing their own baggage in not understanding that Meghan and the love of her, is what allowed Harry to come to this place, where he is making this decision. Meghan (and you, in case you need to hear it) are worth this sacrifice.
The WHY
Women are the ones usually expected to sacrifice for their family. So part of what’s happening here is a man is giving up A LOT for his family and people are shell-shocked and projecting their own baggage unto this. Meghan had a whole budding career in Hollywood. She dropped it and moved across the pond and no one thanked her or made a big deal of it. Because that’s what she was supposed to do, right?? Yeah ok.
People are trying to call Harry’s manhood into question for putting love and family first, over money. This act of his proves he is more of a MAN than most people can fathom. I’m sure some of the men who are calling his machoness into court, are the types of miss the birth of their baby for some random sporting event. You, know, the types of troglodytes who think the only emotion to show is anger and the only time to cry is when their mama dies. It be the same people who are worried about women who are “golddiggers.” FOOL YOU DON’T EVEN HAVE TIN FOIL OR THE SENSE GOD GAVE A TOENAIL! WHAT WILL A WOMAN HAVE TO DIG FROM YOU!?!?!? The fuckery abounds.
I am heartened with the love Harry and Meghan are choosing over everything else. The yuckmouths who question this act are proof that some people exist in this world to inspire the rest of us to not be them.
Happily ever after isn’t some prince coming to save his love. It’s a grown man, telling the world that his family is more important than anything else, and that he will do what he can to protect it. May we all have someone or people in our lives who are worth cherishing, protecting and fighting for in a world that tells us to chase money first, not love.
I wish Harry and Meghan and Archie peace.
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Not. One. Lie.
I hope they find the peace, happiness, and respect they deserve.
You hit the nail on the head. Those people that have been loud in their hatred over H&M just can’t fathom that this rich white prince (who could have anyone he wanted) chose this black woman to be his bride.
Your article was on point. Brava!
“Really, I think it comes down to the fact that people find it completely unbelievable that a white man (a royal one, at that) could pick a Black woman as his partner, and then pick HER over everyone and everything else in his life.”
^^^ This part!
Excellent Luvvie!!! Just excellent! Such truth even if it’s ugly truth!
My favourite is all the people who insist there was no racism. They have no concept that saying that demonstrates they are completely oblivious or racist themselves – and often both.
Gorgeous post! You hit the nail on the head! And it is what makes their love story a real fairy tale. Because happilly ever after requires them to walk away from the castle and lean on each other.
This is absolutely on point.
Bless Harry and Meghan.
They would have sent explosives to the palace had he married someone that resembled Lupita.
Bravo, Duke and Duchess of Sussex-you are giving us a fairy tale! I pray many happy years together. Love the disappearing act!
Great post, Luvvie. We pray strength and peace that surpasses all understanding on them as they move forward. God bless the Duke and Duchess of Sussex and sweet baby Archie.
abso-freaking-lutely!!!! ALL of it!!!!
All that said Meghan is not exactly a black woman! She’s mixed-race – black and white. Why disregard her father? She doesn’t do it, why should you?
Say what?!!!! Her father disregarded himself… But lets not discuss how RACISM does not recognize the white half of her. This Duchess is a black woman and she does not owe the world an explanation as to why. I’m sure their ears are still ringing from the melanin fueled rendition of Lean on me at their wedding.
He may have disregarded himself but she hasn’t and she’s blatantly said she will not choose one parent over another (as far as identifying herself). However, I love her and I wish she stayed here with us in the UK.
Wow! Beautifully expressed. You go girl! Tell them!
You are right. She is mixed race and not a Black woman. But her father is straight garbage and Meghan does disregard him and for good reason. The man is toxic.
“Wow! Beautifully expressed. You go girl! Tell them!”
I was trying to comment on the article, not reply to the thread my comment ended up on.
She is mixed but it’s the Black part of her that is under attack, so for all intents and purposes in this particular case, she’s a Black woman!
Exactly. The hatred of Meghan makes no sense. She’s well-educated, independent, beautiful, and strong. The UK was lucky to get her and they screwed it up.
As usual, Luvvie, you’re spot on. Thanks.
Megan and Harry need a Beyhive for protection. You are absolutely right—none of the Royals stood up for them. The Queen could have faced down the racists. What if she had stood up for for her family? Told the racists to f off.
ALL the this. I’ve been saying this over and over and over again. He refuses to lose her or make her unhappy and he’ll do whatever it takes to protect her and their little boy. I adore him for it. She’s been amazing. Sweet, strong, powerful, honest and extraordinary, and now we’ve lost them. I’m honestly disgusted by the Queen for not doing more to stop it getting this bad; all she had to do was call some editors in to the palace and ask them why they were being racist. Instead she let it get so bad they felt they had to leave. In fact, she’s done to them what she did to his mother, which scares the pants off me. Anyway. Thank you for writing this. ???????????? (I bet Doria saw this coming.)
Kudos to Harry and Meghan. They are and will be enough “royals” to sustain and maintain the Monarchy for generations. Harry is living in his truth. He saw what happened to his Mother and she paid the ultimate price. Self-care and self-preservation over tradition.
Live your lives!!
Yes to what Kaybee said.
They are only giving up 5% of their income. They are only giving up the titles “Royal Highness”. They were forced to give up some things they hadn’t planned on and apparently are all that happy about.
I think you just missed the point of the entire article.
This is so on point Luvvie. I know Princess Harry is a grown ass man and able to make decision for himself. Many people don’t know anything about true love so when it shows up they freak out. I pray God continue to bless Harry, Meagan and little Archie.
I have always adored Prince Harry and saw the effect his mother’s death had on him. The media with the tacit approval of QE2 murdered Princess Diana. So for him to say “Enough is enough, I won’t let you murder my wife the way you did my mother” is beyond powerful.
God’s blessings on Harry, Meghan and Master Archie.
The one thing everyone will not acknowledge is the fact that all the other senior Royals refused to stand up to the truth which is racism and bigotry in the media and the monarchy. The Duchess of Sussex wasn’t attacked because she had freckles it was due to her DNA. It was a nod of disappointment because Prince Harry’s choice wasn’t the typical blonde brownie instead he personally hand picked a beautiful twisted milk chocolate covered ????. Pretzels have so many lovely levels such as crunchy or chewy, sweet, salty, plain, dipped in chocolate(white, milk or dark and when a person’s taste bud is satisfied there’s no going back.
Prince Harry and Meghan handled themselves together with great strength until it reached another level of craziness hence there was no other choice. The Royals stood by and said nothing not even the comparison of baby Archie to a chimpanzee. What grandfather and great grandmother think this is ok? The Queen moved swiftly to get a handle when the news reported of Prince Harry and Meghan’s exit even pinned a letter of support to Meghan and her work as a Royal but nothing while she was being attacked non stop with lies. The media and the senior Royals are the blame for the Duke and Duchess of Sussex exit just as they were with Princess Diana leaving with the latter one permanent.
She is half black. Get over yourselves, people just want to see bad everywhere they look. Not one person in this world looks to point out all of the good. You are no better than all the people that have attacked her. Try not to punch down, you might find yourself having a better day.
Oh and just to add to that, no one considers you black when you are of mixed ethnicities. Black people tell you, “you are not black” and white people tell you, “you are not white”. No one claims us until it is to their own benefit so stop acting like you know or care because if she was a no-one who claimed to be black you wouldn’t accept it and hate on that too!