I’m Probably Gonna Be a Deadbeat Friend/Blogger/Etc For the Next 3 Months
Or maybe I’ve already been sucking as a friend for the last 2 years. It’s only going to get worse.
I was inspired to write this because I read a piece written by a busy mom as she warns her friends that her lack of attention at the moment will be temporary, as she raises her small children. I nodded and agreed, except my lack of attention is due to my career and my book launch that’s coming up. I’m not a parent yet, and to call my work my “baby” might make some mad. BUT I’MA DO IT ANYWAY.
Next week, I begin a new chapter in my professional life, with the launch of my debut book, I’M JUDGING YOU: The Do-Better Manual, on September 13. I’ve been blogging for 13 years but this is the first thing people can hold in their hands.
On that day, thousands of people will receive the version they pre-ordered, and I begin my hectic book tour promoting this baby. That evening’s launch event in Brooklyn kicks off my fall of hitting 15 cities in 8 weeks. Plus, I have a lot of press/interviews lined up. Even when I’m not doing an event, I’ll be doing media. Sleep will catch me on flights, and I expect to have under-eye dark circles that look like the black hole of the universe. I’m tired in advance. I’m tired on credit. But I’m also excited because I’M AN AUTHOR NOW! I did this thing I’m really proud of!
On top of that, I will still be doing speaking engagements, and helping to run The Red Pump Project. I will probably still be doing some brand ambassador stuff too. Oh AND Awesomely Techie will be kept afloat too. Long story long, I will be doing the absolute most.
So, this is my full admittance that I am going to suck as a friend until at least end of 2016. I’m probably going to suck as a blogger too. On this site, people are used to seeing new content almost daily, and that is just not going to happen as I am on my tour. I’m usually the Miss Pearl of pop culture, keeping on top of all the shenanigans happening in the world. I will probably be a bit more out of the loop than usual, and I need y’all to understand the struggle.
I am also expecting my inbox to implode and fold in within itself. I will be too busy making sure I am remembering to eat more than once a day and praying that I can hang tough with my schedule.
To be quite honest, though, I’ve felt like a shitty friend for at least 2 years. Running my own business as a writer, speaker, techie AND a national nonprofit organization for the last 6 years has taken a toll on my ability to be truly present in the lives of those I love. Working 16 hour days to ensure that I can pay my bills has been a bulk of my entrepreneurship life. And on days when I don’t, odds are I’m running to the airport.
There have been times when a good friend has sent me an email and it was buried under less important ones, and I missed it for 4 months. Or I thought I answered when I opened it but odds are I was on the go so I never hit send on my response. Or people will send me texts but I won’t reply for 12 hours (or a day) because I got overwhelmed by seeing the number of unread texts so I avoided my inbox, therefore creating a cycle of overwhelmedness.
Basically, I’ve BEEN the worst. And I feel guilty about it every single time.
And here I am saying I will continue to drop the ball on being a good friend for at least 3 more months. Blame it on my head, and not my heart. I’ll be a little slower responding but I still love you!
Friends, family, and non-haters, I apologize in advance. Please be patient with me as I make my dream come true. I do look forward to slowing down but that won’t be til at least January 2017. Til then, love me as I miss in action. Love me in spite of the fact that I am not gonna be as accessible as I was. And love me because I need you to now more than ever. I will come up for air soon enough.
I know this is a selfish request but please lower your expectations of me for now. Give me til next year to get my shit together. Hopefully by then, I can say “Best-selling author” and all this would have paid off in dividends.
I cannot do everything well at the same time. For now, what I need to do well is this book stuff.
Thanks for understanding.
P.S. My Instagram account will be where folks can keep up with me this fall, TBH. Even my mama might need to check it to know what I’m up to. So follow me @Luvvie. Y’all know how I feel about SnapChat. IDK, yo. I might try Instagram Stories, doe.