My Life

I Need Laughter Now More Than Ever

I’m dealing with the loss of my grandmother, who was the matriarch of my very close-knit family. For me, it’s important to grieve, but also very important to be there for my mom, siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins. But MY process of grief is odd. I need to be distracted from the situation at hand. I need to do certain things that reflect my life before the tragedy.

I need to write my thoughts down.

But what I need the most right now is to laugh. I want to laugh so hard that my tears are no longer from sorrow. I’ve cried so much that I look like Quasimodo. One eye is all swollen and blood red. And my hair is all wayward on my head. I am a sight for sore eyes.

And clearly still shallower than a jean pocket. O___O

But still. I just want to laugh so I can get out my own head. And so I can feel some semblance of joy, even if just for a moment. Before I remember her face and remember I won’t hear her laughter again.

So I’ll try to keep blogging through it. Making light of life’s mundane things and people who don’t know how to act might help me. Part of the reason I made this blog humor-focused is so that it could serve as an escape for some of life’s darker things. And as I go through this dark time, I’ll keep that in mind still. I might not be laughing but I still want to know that I’m making someone smile/laugh/chuckle/snort somewhere. THAT can help me heal.

When in doubt, write. That’s what I’ll do. Write. And Blog. And Laugh. Laugh with me.

Maybe I’ll go check Tyrese’s tweets. Those are sure to bring a coupla chuckles.

I might be mourning but I still throw shade like I ain’t get paid. See what I did there? YOU SEE IT!

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  1. May 17, 2011 at 12:31 am

    I’ll pray- that you and your family receive the peace and strength you’ll need to make it through.

    That her legacy lives on in each of you, and that day where you can think of her and smile comes sooner rather than later.

    That this moment and the ones that come after bring your family closer, rather than spread apart.

    That the sunshine will come and dry all of your tears, and the morning breeze carries a message of love, from your beloved grandmother. One that encourages, strengthens, and encompasses you with the love you’ve experienced from her thus far.

    May you all find comfort, strength, and peace in each other, and in He that dwells within.

  2. May 17, 2011 at 12:34 am

    Wish I had foolishment for you, but I don’t. Just love ya, girl.

    You and your family are in my prayers.

  3. Embraceurcrazy
    May 17, 2011 at 6:10 am

    Sorry for your loss. I hope your faith and memories get you and your family through.

  4. May 17, 2011 at 6:40 am

    So twitter just suggested that I follow my DAUGHTER who by the way is using her gov’t name!!!! And her azz is in school & safe from me cussing her out. Oh & her group of friends got kicked out the mall on Friday night for playing the piano in Boscov’s. Who does that? They already draw attention to themselves looking like a walking Benetton ad then these delinquents go & play the piano in the quietest place in the mall?!?!?!? Da hell!

    Hope that makes you laugh. Kinda made me laugh…a little.

    • May 18, 2011 at 5:58 pm

      LMAO @ Benetton ad. Gurl yeah you surely did make me laugh. Oh teenagers… gotta love them. By love, I mean side-eye.

  5. Jan
    May 17, 2011 at 6:56 am

    I’m so sorry; that’s the hardest thing, to say goodbye to someone you love so well. I’m sure your beloved grandmother understands your tears but would want you to laugh as much as you can. Hugs to you and yours, Luvvie.

    • May 18, 2011 at 5:57 pm

      Yeah her laughter plays in my head and it surely makes me smile. Thanks Jan.

  6. MissMaryMack
    May 17, 2011 at 11:30 am

    My condolences and prayers are with you and your family. Stay strong and remember that we ALWAYS have the choice to smile.

    • May 17, 2011 at 11:27 pm

      I definitely appreciate that.

  7. LB
    May 17, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    My heart and love to you and your family in the loss.
    Yes, I’ll laugh with you.
    But I’d also cry with you, when need be.


    • May 17, 2011 at 11:26 pm

      And I appreciate that.

  8. May 17, 2011 at 9:21 pm

    Even though I don’t know you personally or ever comment, you have brought laughter to my life every day between your blog and your tweets so I consider you a friend in my head. I am deeply sorry for your loss, I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time. Having gone through the same thing not too long ago, I know how hard it is.

    • May 17, 2011 at 11:21 pm

      Thanks a lot, Erica!

  9. May 17, 2011 at 11:16 pm

    You need laughter? hmmm…. On VSB I called Cicely Tyson a Negro Leagues groupie – does that help?

    • May 17, 2011 at 11:20 pm


  10. May 18, 2011 at 8:26 am

    Hello Luvvie,
    I want to send my condolences to you in your time of Sorrow. I remember the loss of my Grandmother vividly as I had just loss my Grandpa four months before. Death is only a sleep and I believe that we will be awaken at the Day of Judgement. Sending you Love and Positive vibes.

    • May 18, 2011 at 5:45 pm

      Thanks, Jaycee. That means an awful lot.

  11. May 20, 2011 at 4:49 pm

    Luvvie!!!! Girl I know how you feel! I miss my GrannyLo all day long. Although I didn’t see her every sangle day of my life – the time I spent with her is more precious to me. She shaped my love of gospel music and how to have a sense of humor and most importantly – how to be a lady. Girl give yourself a big hug and know that we all appreciate her granddaughter’s warped sense of humor!!! And remember…it’s ok for a thug to cry when granny is gone…now g up and gitchu some tishu!

  12. lunestalcan
    May 22, 2011 at 11:12 pm

    I’m a few days tardy for the party; i was selling all my possessions in preparation for the rapture ‘_’
    I would recommend youtubing some afro sheen commercials, those make my snort like my name is Urkel.
    In all seriousness my heart goes out to you, I lost my grandma (and last grandparent) a few years back and it still stings sometimes. Anytime I see a sassy/ratchet/youthful old lady I think of her.
    Be blessed Luvvie <3

  13. May 28, 2011 at 4:21 pm

    Much love to you and your family. Her memories will live on with all of you.

    I lost my Granny on Easter weekend this year. She meant the same things to us. Hurts. Still. But, it brought some of us closer.

    I go through in my mind the outrageous stuff she would say, especially about her ShimmerLights shampoo! Lord, have mercy! :o) Or about eating lots of ham at Christmas time! I’m from B’dos so ham is a special tradition at this time of year.

    Big hugs and kisses, Luvvie. As Granny would say: Keep trusting in de Lord!