Stop Enabling Your Erasure: Speak About Your Accomplishments!

Awesomely Luvvie — September 20, 2024

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Your silence about your accomplishments is not service. It’s just enabling your erasure.

I posted that and y’all said, I have dragged you and gathered you, but I just need to make sure you really know what I’m talking about. We’ve been somehow told that we need to humble our way through the world, diminishing our ideas and thoughts and things that we did because we don’t want to be arrogant.

Let me tell you something right now. Humble is not going to be the first thing you say about me, because I will recognize how dope I am because I am a divine being who God has gifted and who was living her life out loud in purpose and in intention and in truth. Why would I not say how glorious God’s grace is showing up in my life?

Why would I not talk about the hard work that also helped get me here? Why would I not talk about the ways in which I, a black woman, have climbed mountains I could have never even thought existed for me? My silence is not service. My silence is just enabling other people to overlook me, to ignore my contributions, to say they did what I did when I did that.

I’ve hit the New York Times bestselling list four times. I have three more books coming next one in May. I have done things that a lot of people have not done. Why would I be quiet about it? For what purpose? Who wins in my silence? Who benefits with my doubt? It’s not me. It’s not other people who look like me.

It’s not the world. Me shrinking and not taking up the space I’m supposed to take does not benefit anybody. The only people who would benefit are people who want to humble me, who want to make sure I stay small, stay in small boxes. So, I want you to think about it like this. It’s not a brag if it’s the truth.

It’s not a brag if you actually accomplished it. It’s not a brag if it’s not an exaggeration. It just is facts. What you did was facts. So let people know the facts of how dope you are and what you’ve been able to do. The mountains you’ve climbed. The battles you’ve won that none of us know about. Don’t be shy about talking about your accomplishments when it calls for it.

I’m not saying start every day with, I did this today. Even though you did, I am not blaming you. But when the occasion calls for it, do not sit there and diminish your accomplishments. Do not say, well, you know, I just did that. No, you did that. You did that, Okay? And it was incredible.